05 Dec Controlling The Universe: Why Letting Go Helps You Manifest More

It is the most beautiful summer’s day here as I am writing this. The pool is sparkling, the frangipani are blooming, and the bougainvillea is the brightest pink. Days like this always remind me how good life can feel when you stop trying to control everything and allow yourself to be supported.

Which is exactly what I want to talk to you about today.

There is a sneaky manifesting myth that quietly sabotages so many smart, passionate big dreaming women. It’s the belief you need to know exactly how your desires will manifest before they can show up.

On the surface it sounds logical. You were probably taught to make a plan, follow the steps, work hard, and stay on top of everything. That can work in some areas, but when it comes to manifesting, trying to control every detail can actually push what you want further away.

Let’s unpack why, and what to do instead.

The sneaky myth that blocks abundance

You’ve probably heard the advice, “Get clear on what you want.” I’m all for clarity, but here is where so many women get stuck.

You get clear on what you want… then your mind immediately jumps to:
• How is this going to happen
• What are the exact steps
• What if I choose the wrong path
• What if I miss the opportunity

You start overthinking, planning, strategizing and micromanaging. It feels responsible and productive but… underneath all that, you’re actually driven by fear and a lack of trust. Deep down, the message is, “If I do not control every detail, it will not work.”

From a manifesting perspective, that energy is the opposite of openness and allowing. Instead of broadcasting trust and expectation, you are broadcasting worry and doubt. You are trying to do the Universe’s job as well as your own, so no wonder it feels exhausting.

What your brain is doing when you obsess over the “how”

Let us bring in the neuroscience for a moment.

Your brain has a powerful filtering system called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). Its job is to sort through the millions of bits of information you are exposed to every second and show you what it thinks is important.

What does it use as a guide – whatever you keep focusing on.

If your focus is on:
• How hard this is
• How long it is taking
• How far away you still feel from your desire

Your brain will faithfully highlight more of that. More delays, more evidence that it’s not working, more reasons to worry.

On the other hand, when you are clear on what you want, feel into why you want it, and choose thoughts of possibility and trust, your brain starts to filter in very different ways. You begin to notice ideas, people, opportunities and “random” nudges that were probably there all along, you just were not tuned to them.

This is where the metaphysical and the scientific dance together. You are sending a clear signal to the Universe and training your brain to back it up.

Your real job: what, why and how you want to feel

So if your job is not to control every step, what is your job?

First, get clear on what you want.

For example, you might decide you want to manifest an extra hundred thousand dollars a year, or a steady flow of ideal clients, or the freedom to work from home and choose your own hours.

Then, get honest about why you want it.

Is it to feel free
• To support your family
• To travel
• To contribute more
• To stop worrying about money every time a bill arrives

Your why is so much more important than you think. It is the emotional fuel behind your desire and we all know the Universe responds to energy, not just words.

And finally, tune into how you want to feel when it manifests.

Do you want to feel spacious
• Relaxed
• Proud of yourself
• Grateful
• Secure

That feeling becomes your inner “new reality.” When you practice feeling it now, before anything has changed, you line up your energy with what you are calling in.

Daily practice: letting go of control, not your dreams

Letting go does not mean giving up. It means releasing the tight grip on how things need to unfold.

You can support this with simple daily practices. For example:
• Take a few minutes each morning to imagine your desire as already real. Feel the freedom, joy, or relief it brings.
• Use affirmations like, “I am clear about what I want, and I trust the Universe to deliver in perfect, magical ways.”
• Notice when your mind slips back into trying to control every detail, and gently remind yourself, “My job is the what and why. The Universe can handle the how.”

Over time, these small practices retrain your brain and your nervous system and you stop living in stress and push, and start living in more ease and expectation.

Staying open to unexpected opportunities and inspired action

Letting go of control does not mean sitting on the couch waiting for miracles to drop into your lap. Action is still essential, but it is inspired action instead of frantic, forced action.

Staying open means you:
• Watch for unexpected ideas, invitations and opportunities
• Follow the nudges that feel exciting or expansive
• Take simple, practical steps when they appear
• Trust that one thing will lead to another, even if you cannot see the whole path yet

When the name “Wildly Wealthy Women” came to me early one morning, I could have ignored it. Instead, I took action. I got up, registered the domain name name online – evening though I had NO IDEA what I was going to do with it. I followed that breadcrumb, that inner nudge. So much of my life today, including this podcast and my work with women all over the world, has flowed from that one inspired step.

You do not need to see ten steps ahead. You just need to honour the next one that lights you up.

You do not have to do it all alone

For a long time I felt like I had to figure everything out on my own. As a single mum, stressed and in debt, trying to micromanage every detail was my default.

It was only when I began to trust that I was being supported, that I was not alone, that things truly began to shift. The help, the ideas, the people and the opportunities I needed began to show up. Not because I was controlling the Universe, but because I finally stopped trying to.

Manifesting abundance, financial freedom and a life you love is a partnership. Clarity, alignment, trust and inspired action are your side of the deal. The timing, the exact path and the miracles along the way, that is the Universe’s domain.

When you really embrace that, you stop pushing and start co-creating.

Your next step

So here is your invitation.

Choose one desire you are manifesting right now. Get clear on what you want, why you want it, and how you want to feel. Then, for the next week, practice letting go of the how.

Notice the thoughts that try to pull you back into control and gently choose trust instead. Watch for the little nudges and opportunities that appear when you create space for them.

If you would like to go deeper with this, I talk more about it in Episode #44 of the Wildly Wealthy Women podcast, “Stop Controlling the Universe.” It is a powerful reminder that you do not have to carry it all on your shoulders.

You are allowed to be supported.
You are allowed to receive.
You are allowed to create wealth and freedom in ways that feel far more magical than logical.

And if you are ready to go deeper with this work and really rewire your money story, that is exactly what we do inside Divine Money Manifesting.

I walk you step by step through the processes, practices and mindset shifts that helped me go from welfare and over a hundred thousand dollars in debt to becoming a millionaire, doing work I love and feeling supported by the Universe. You will get powerful tools to release old patterns around money, align your energy with abundance and take practical, inspired action toward the life you keep dreaming about.

If this blog has reminded you that you do not have to control everything, only your own alignment, then DMM is the perfect next step. You will be held, guided and supported as you upgrade your money mindset and open to more ease, more flow and more financial freedom.

You can find all the details and join our course and international community here: Divine Money Manifesting

I’d love to support you as you relax your grip on the how and let yourself receive so much more.